How to Be Married and Still Remain a Couple
Many people say that the institution of marriage is a thing of the past and that it falls short of our “modern needs”. I don’t believe that’s true, especially when I consider how many married couples I personally know that last for decades now. Sure, there are some situations where people get married too fast, but in most cases, people are just too lazy to put in work and sort out the things they need to resolve. By the same token, they tend to let outside stress influence them, and they channel that stress towards their partner.
Unfortunately, there is no foolproof plan that can help your marriage work, since the relationship between two people is never the same. They might involve some of the same issues, but there are no two identical situations. The general rule is to attempt to remain a couple to some extent. It will never be the same as it was in the beginning, but it will help avoid drifting apart from each other. Here are a few tips on how to do that.
Keep the respect towards one another
As years rush by, we tend to take each other for granted. This usually isn’t something that we do on purpose. This is a passive and gradual process, but it can still hurt people significantly, especially in the long run, and marriage is the longest run there is when we comes to relationships. The fact that a person decided to spend the rest of his/her life with you isn’t something that gives you the right to treat that person like a piece of property. A married couple is a team that functions together, and if there isn’t any respect between the two of you, your life together will not be as happy as it could be.
Leave time in your schedule for each other
The lives of modern people are busy, that much is true. Successful people take their work home more times than not, and this might make them a bit detached from their family. I mean, if we take a look at the lives of modern families, mom and dad have a couple of hours to themselves in the evening, and this isn’t enough time for a healthy relationship. If you absolutely can’t do anything about your schedule, then make the time you spend together be quality time.
That damn money
Financial troubles can cause fallouts between friends, family and most certainly marital spouses. Don’t let this happen to you. Be aware that you are a part of the same team and that you should work together to get out of the financial slump that you have entered. When you just began dating, I’m sure money wasn’t the main thing on your mind. Try to remain calm and resolve the issues by relying on each other.
The bedroom
Everybody knows that passion between partners may vain over the years, but this doesn’t have to be necessarily so. If you focus on improving your life in the bedroom instead of taking this for granted, things will get better really quick. It all starts with conversation, of course. Talk to each other and see what each of you would like to try. I know most people think that sex should be spontaneous and consider planned situations a let down by themselves. This is just a stereotype, and it might be uncomfortable at first, but you should not be ashamed of your partner. There are a lot of tips that deal with this subject online, you just need to keep and open mind and everything is going to be fine.
Keep acting young
The fact that you are married and passed the 40th birthday doesn’t mean that you have lost the right to kiss in public. I’m not sure what age has to do with the wish to show affection towards your partner. I wasn’t aware that there was an age restriction for this. Act the way you want to and don’t let stupid stereotypes influence your relationship.
I want to leave you with one final thought. Pay attention to your spouse and communicate, these are the basics of marriage. Each individual problem can be overcome if you have the will to do it. I wish you many great years together.